The Stories We Don’t Tell

The stories we don’t tell

They’re not dramatic. They’re not scandalous. Well, sometimes they are….

Mostly though, they’re just… real. Pedestrian or scandalous… our stories are real, lived and have an impact, sometimes for years or decades.

The woman who has everything except desire.
The high performer who feels like a ghost in her own pleasure.
The mother who’s quietly wondering who she’ll be when no one needs her.

These aren’t personal failures.
They’re the natural outcomes of a world that taught us to achieve instead of feel, to give instead of want, to perform instead of receive.

We learned how to win.
We didn’t learn how to be wildly, unapologetically well.

But here’s the truth:

You don’t have to tell the whole story.
But you don’t have to hold it alone either.

That’s why your being here matters to women who don’t know you yet… and them being here matters to you in ways you can’t see yet either…

If you’ve ever wondered…

• Why don’t I want what I used to?

• Why do I feel disconnected when everything else is going right?

• What happened to that part of me that used to light up?

It’s not just you. It’s us.

You are not the only one faking sleep instead of initiating.
You are not the only one who feels more alive at a retreat than at home.
You are not the only one who has Googled her own soul.

The most dangerous story we carry is the one we never speak.

Let’s not pass that silence down.

The research speaks up though….

We’ve been taught to look for answers narrowly in hormone panels and new positions.
But the data keeps pointing somewhere else. (Though I'm still a fan of a new position when timed right)

• A study in Frontiers in Psychology found that emotional support, optimism, and relational trust predict sexual satisfaction in midlife women more than physical factors do.

• Another? Partners who play—who tease, laugh, explore—report significantly better long-term intimacy and lower rates of detachment.

• And Baumeister’s theory of erotic plasticity proves that women’s sexuality is deeply influenced by context—emotional, social, cultural.

So if your desire shifts with seasons, stress, or the size of your to-do list?
You’re not malfunctioning. You’re responding. That’s intelligence.

Your desire isn’t a problem to solve. It’s a language you’ve been taught to forget.

Let’s remember it together. This is how we can liberate one another…

Baumeister’s Theory of Erotic Plasticity: “Erotic plasticity is the degree to which one's sex drive can be changed by cultural or social factors. Someone has "high erotic plasticity" when their sex drives can be affected by situational, social and cultural influences, whereas someone with "low erotic plasticity" has a sex drive that is relatively rigid and unsusceptible to change.”

More From Paramount Love and Liberation Letters….

You remember what it felt like when Untamed hit?

Like someone cracked open the group chat and said the truth—out loud.
Women left marriages. Started movements. Reclaimed their bodies, boundaries, and burning hunger.

But Untamed was the spark.
Paramount Love is the flame.

Where Untamed said “We can do hard things,”
Paramount Love says:

Where Untamed gave women permission to break free,
Paramount Love builds the infrastructure for what comes next:

• Erotic sovereignty.

• Soul-matched relationships.

• Conscious dating, sacred sex, and deep feminine leadership.

Glennon helped us unlearn the script.

We’re writing the next one.

If you’re here, you’re not late.
You’re just early—to the next culture shift.
One where pleasure isn’t shameful, partnership isn’t performative, and truth isn’t optional.

This is not self-help.
This is cultural architecture.
This is Liberation Letters.
This is Paramount Love.
This is ours.