Sex for Success: The Pleasure Performance Connection
(These are real conversations about what happens when high performers stop compartmentalizing pleasure.)
This is a controversial statement, and one I ‘stand on business’ behind:
Pleasure is the highest-return whole-life improvement hack for high achievers.
Good sex frequently, will get you to the top…..and I do not mean sleeping with your boss. This LL has specific protocols to help. Try them, solo or partnered and I guarantee you will notice a material shift. Type A folks - you are welcome ;)
Tuesday, 8:43 PM – My kitchen counter, post–Zoom session
"I started scheduling sex like I schedule my workouts," she said, glass of red wine in hand. "Three times a week, no matter what. My boss asked if I’d started microdosing because I’m suddenly ‘glowing’ and nailing every meeting."
I laughed. "You’re not microdosing, babe. You’re macro-dosing on oxytocin."
Here’s what’s wild: the data agrees. People who have sex regularly (defined as 2–3 times per week) report 33% higher workplace satisfaction, 20% higher productivity, and better immune response. (University of Oxford, 2021.)
Her eyes widened. "So basically… the more I have sex, the better I function?"
"Pretty much," I said. "And you can quote me on that."
Wednesday, 7:12 AM – Coaching Email
"Kelsey, I had a client presentation after a morning quickie… I swear I was magnetic. Is that real or placebo?"
I wrote back: "Oh, it’s real. Here’s the neurochemistry: post-orgasm, your brain floods with endorphins and dopamine. Your cortisol (stress hormone) drops. That cocktail = better focus, more charisma, higher risk tolerance. Aka: leadership energy."
And there’s more. Research from the University of Maryland found that sexual activity actually improves cognitive function and memory recall. In other words, pleasure literally rewires your brain for performance.
So yes — that post-quickie glow isn’t luck. It’s biology flexing.
You want a life-hack for your career, drop the extra 30 mins of sleep and roll over with a wink and a grin first thing. Wham. Bam. Leadership lightning!
7-Day Pleasure Challenge - Couples Edition: A Week of Play, Presence, and Erotic Exploration, 7-day structured challenge for couples to deepen intimacy and pleasure.
7-Day Pleasure Challenge - Singles/Dating Edition: A Week of Self-Love, Sensation, and Desire Expansion, 7-day structured challenge for singles to explore personal pleasure.
Click to get resource online!
Track sleep, HRV (heart rate variability), and recovery. Notice patterns between sexual activity and next-day performance metrics.
Urologist Explains Changes In How Often People Are Having Sex. Is it really on the decline? What age groups are having less sex and what does that mean? Why are people having less sex?
Friday, 11:09 PM – Text thread with a client
"Took your ‘3-for-3’ challenge. Had sex three times this week — twice solo, once with my partner. My anxiety dropped. Closed two deals. Coincidence?"
I replied: "Nope. That’s the Sex–Success Index in action. Every orgasm is a reset. You’re biohacking through pleasure, not punishment."
Here’s your challenge this week (and yes, I’m talking to you too):
The 3-for-3 Challenge
Have sex (solo or partnered) three times this week.
Track three changes: mood, confidence, focus.
Bonus: if/when it works for you, share it with a friend who will appreciate the gift of increased mood, greater confidence and laser-like focus that comes when you succeed at the challenge.
Monday, 9:03 AM – Voice note from a reader
"Okay, tried the ‘pleasure before presentation’ trick. Kels… I crushed it. I felt grounded, powerful, untouchable. Like Beyoncé in a boardroom."
I smiled listening. "Exactly the point. Pleasure isn’t indulgent. It’s preparatory. It grounds you in your body before you go lead the room."
Harvard Business Review actually published on this (without the fun language, obviously): people who cultivate high body awareness perform better under stress. Pleasure is body awareness in its sexiest form.
Most high achievers chase optimization through discipline — fasting, cold plunges, sleep optimization, biohacks. But pleasure is the most underused performance enhancer on the planet.
When you integrate sex into your success strategy, you access flow states, creativity, intuition, and calm. You stop hustling from depletion and start leading from desire.
So yes, sex your way to the top. It’s not just about orgasms — it’s about becoming magnetic, regulated, alive.
Something You Could Try Tonight
Before your next meeting, date, or deadline — give yourself a pleasure break.
Touch, breathe, move. Prime your body for aliveness. Then go crush it.
Something You Could Try at Work
Before your next meeting or presentation — boost your magnetic & confident energy.
Find a private place to do the following - it will take just 60 seconds.
Stand tall with legs shoulder width apart, arms spread out wide, shoulder height or higher to your sides.
Push your chest out and take in four deep breaths through your nose (in for a count of four), and out through pursed lips (out for a count of eight). Stretch your arms as high as you can in the air, getting as tall as you can and do the same breathing technique.
Release the stretch. Now for the key piece, arouse your nipples for 15 seconds: graze with back of hand, pinch or simply close your eyes and imagine something nipple related that gets you going.
One more stretch out wide with the arms, chest forward, and you are done. Energized, magnetic, confidence primed. Now go crush it.
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