Real Stories That Prove Pleasure Is Power
This edition of the Liberation Letters is raw and real and results… a peek behind the curtain of what’s happening with couples, men and women who read the LL and who work with me.
She didn’t think it mattered.
Until she sent me a 2 a.m. orgasm text.
Or the napkin she slid across the table that said: “I finally asked for what I wanted.”
Or the promotion that landed on her desk a month after she started touching herself again.
Pleasure isn’t a luxury.
It’s a revolution.
These are real stories of readers and clients… like you.
Every week, I get stories like these:
The woman who thought she was “low desire” until she realized she was just bored.
She sent me an email telling me that after years of not touching herself, she woke at 2am and masturbated after reading a LL that spoke directly to a few ways to masturbate and the benefits of self pleasure.
Now she has a regular masturbation practice and can’t remember when she felt more alive.
The mother who had been numb for 15 years… and felt her body again after one night of trying something new.
Her man rose to the occasion (pun intended) and they have been on a streak of great CONNECTED sex for months, improving their relationship both inside and outside of the bedroom.
The woman who wrote three options of how the night could go from there, on a napkin and slid it to her partner across the table while out for dinner one night. His face lit up in excitement and disbelief.
Bringing novelty and clarity to her partner, after reading a suggested exercise in a LL months ago. They hadn’t had such an exciting date night in years.
The woman who decided to say yes to herself and explore what SHE truly wanted by taking up a journaling practice, writing down what she wanted in all aspects of her life and taking small steps toward getting them.
After finding that her partner was open and eager to saying YES to the things she wanted to explore in the bedroom, she got the courage to ask for what she believed she deserved at work, getting a raise and clarifying responsibilities of her role.
These aren’t just stories about sex.
They’re about sovereignty.
When a woman says yes to herself, it ripples outward—into her family, her career, her community. And then live like the answer TRULY mattered.
Myth vs Truth
Myth: Sexual pleasure is optional. A “bonus.”
Truth: Sexual pleasure is a vital sign of your aliveness. When women reclaim it, they reclaim everything.
Cultural Commentary + Science
When we treat sexuality as private, shameful, or “extra,” we shrink not just our pleasure but our potential.
Research shows that women who engage openly in sexual self-discovery report higher overall well-being, stronger relationships, and increased self-esteem and couples who talk openly about sex are significantly more satisfied in both their sexual and non-sexual relationship domains.
The ripple effect doesn’t stop in the bedroom. A study on sexual self-efficacy found that women who felt confident voicing their desires also reported greater assertiveness in work and family life
In other words: when you learn to say yes in your body, you start saying yes in your boardroom, your kitchen, your life.
The science is clear—sexuality isn’t a side note. It’s a source code. De-shaming our erotic selves doesn’t just make sex better. It makes us braver everywhere.
Resources for you
The “Closer Tonight” Questionnaire (Mini Version)
Tonight, pick one of these to answer with your partner, or even just with yourself in a journal:
When did you last feel most alive in your body?
What made you feel most seen by me this week?
What part of our erotic life do you miss—or crave more of?
What’s one truth you want me to know but haven’t said out loud?
Do this and notice what shifts—sometimes the first question cracked open is the one that changes everything.
Lately I’ve been getting more requests for 1:1 coaching than I can take on—while also hearing from so many women who feel alone in wanting more: more honest conversations about sex, more clarity in love, more sovereignty in how they live and lead.
So I’m wondering…
Would you raise your hand for a 6-week circle of women who are ready to:
Finally talk about the sex they want to be having,
Re-create or call in the relationships they truly desire,
Build an Ideal Intimacy Blueprint—clear on who they are now, what they want next, and the bold steps to get it?
Six weeks. Sisters supporting sisters. Led by me.
And I’d offer it at the cost of just one private session with me—$177 total.
👉 Would this be a YES for you? Reply or click this link to share interest.
Dear Kelsey, “We are so far from orgasms it’s sad. I need to start from the ground up. Can you help me find my way back to connection and pleasure in my relationship?”
Kelsey: First- BAM—thank you for naming the truth out loud! So many women feel what you just wrote but never dare to say it. When you say “we’re so far from orgasms it’s sad,” what I hear is not failure but a nervous system that’s been running on empty and a relationship that’s hungry for reconnection.
Here’s the reframe: don’t aim for orgasm right now. Aim for sensation. Aim for presence. Aim for the tiny moments where you feel something real. Pleasure isn’t a finish line—it’s a practice.
To start from the ground up, think in layers:
Safety first: Your body only opens when it feels safe. Begin with small rituals of presence—eye contact, hand-holding, breathing together. This cues your nervous system that connection is safe again.
Slow it down: Forget “sex” for a moment. Bring curiosity to everyday touch: brushing past each other in the kitchen, a 30-second hug, or stroking each other’s arms before bed. Little acts stack.
Play, not performance: Treat intimacy like experiments, not tasks. The pressure to “get back to orgasms” will only shut things down further.
Since I’ve got this same question a bunch of times, phrased differently…..and because, Like the old Elvis song says….’A Little Less Conversation, A Little More Action, I whipped up a 7-Day Pleasure Challenge (Couples & Singles Editions)—because sometimes we just need a simple map back into our bodies and into each other.
Sometimes we also need the third party to make it safe to try… you can say
“This woman Kelsey has a seven day challenge… you want to do it with me?” It takes the pressure off of you when suggesting something new.
Each day is a small, doable practice that will take 15 mins or less. It’s not about climax; it’s about reawakening connection and creating new pathways for desire.
Start with Day 1 tonight. Let’s not be all talk, shall we ;)
And for those of us Single or Dating - let’s not forget our need to get intimate with ourselves because the most magnetic people in the room are those who are the most connected to who they are and what they desire. Here’s your 7 Day Pleasure Challenge, giddy-up!
By the end of the 7 days, you won’t just be closer—you’ll have a blueprint to keep building on. Orgasms will come, but what you’ll really be creating is something much more powerful: a relationship where pleasure, connection, and intimacy have space to thrive again.
Reflection Prompt
What would change in your life if you let your desire come to life? What won’t change if you don't?
Share your answer with me anonymously here or keep it to yourself, but sometimes even the act of speaking it can shift things for you.
Here’s to you each and all... I’m so damn honoured to have you here.
Feeling it,
Kelsey
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